Husbands who watch still watch porn

This is a long post but an important one that has some key distinctions that may help you become filth free. Feel free to skim through the bolded excerpts.

This does not contradict my last post.What it is saying is that although marriage is a fundamental component of becoming and staying filth free, it is not the complete solution.

Here is some proof of that:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husbands-porn-watching-has-put-me-in.html

Go through that page. There are tons of online posts like these that you can find within seconds on any search engine.

It is truly heartbreaking. These are the stories of wives who had found their husbands watching pornography and masturbating and it illustrates the mindsets of these husbands and the complete destruction of the wives’ self-esteem, self-respect, love for the husband, and overall happiness.

Still don’t believe that marriage isn’t the all-saving solution?

Read these excerpts from those wives:

I lost it and fell deeper into a depression. I was in shock because I have a very healthy sexual appetite … so I couldn’t understand why he would do it behind my back and feel the need to masturbate when he has unlimited access to me.

He has made me feel so ugly and disgusting and totally betrayed.

Why do men do this? Does it mean that my husband doesn’t like me? Does it mean that my husband wishes I was the porn stars on the videos?

It makes us feel jealous, insecure, cheated on, worthless, nosy, hurt, betrayed.

This is a long one:

I blamed myself and he blamed me. He said, “I do this because you dont’ give me enough sex.” I hated him. I never wanted to sleep with him after that and things got worse. He stayed in the bathroom with the computer and I lay in bed at night and cry. Hating him more and more desiring him less and less. Then I started forcing myself to give him sex even when I didn’t really want to (and I still do it) and I felt like a dirty whore and I began to hate myself. I fell into a deep depression over this. Fights and more fights. I even contemplated suicide. I felt worthless but at the same time like I wasn’t going to be told how many times a week I should be giving ANYONE SEX!!! He says to me, “I’m not saying I am going to cheat on you but one day there is going to be some fine chick who wants to throw it on me, and since you don’t give me any, you are going to make my decision real hard for me.” He may as well have hit me in the face with a baseball bat….it would have hurt a little less. Then I was lost. I didn’t know if I was having sex with him because I wanted to or because he told me I “should” be. I hated sex and I hated that computer.

It is so important to read these excerpts. Ask yourself, do you want to be the kind of guy who causes this kind of pain to your wife? Do you want to be in this position where your wife hates you, and hates herself because of you? Do you think that a married couple can EVER recover 100% of the relationship after a husband engages with this kind of filth – regardless if he later becomes “filth free”?

The answer is no. Once the innocence is gone, it doesn’t come back, neither does the innocence of a new and healthy marriage –> that innocence is delicate and irrecoverable. Sure a marriage can become healthy again after a lengthy and painful process where it may take a decade to regain trust, but you cannot undo what is done, and you cannot erase memories.